As Mother’s Day approaches, many mom’s are questioning their value as moms and may not be feeling like the “World’s Greatest Mom.”
If this is you, I can relate. This is my first mother’s day as a new mom, and I have got to tell you, this mom job is the hardest I have ever had.
So for all of you tired moms questioning your worth, I have good news for you…
The fact that you are concerned about how you are doing as a mother, is probably a good indication that you are a pretty darn good mom!
Are you feeling discouraged by your child saying “I hate you” and slamming doors when you set a limit?
Be encouraged, most children only feel comfortable sharing difficult emotions such as anger, anxiety, and sadness with those they trust to still be there when the smoke clears. Just like adults, kids are naturally going to be upset when they don’t get what they want. Just remember, the boundaries you set with your children now will teach them valuable life lessons that share your love for them much more than any cookie can.
Although, they may not admit it until they are parents themselves, in the eyes of your child, you are Super Mom!
Meditation for Remembering your Inner Mom Strength
Close your eyes and picture in your mind the ideal mother.
Imagine all of the character traits that make up a good mother and paint a picture in your mind.
Placing a hand on your heart and a hand on your stomach, take a deep breath and imagine a parenting dilemma that you are not proud of. Accept your feelings without judgement. Remind yourself that this decision was a moment in time and does not represent your whole identity as a mother. Notice the life skill you were trying to teach your child in this moment. Ask yourself how your ideal mother would teach this life skill and make a commitment to try this strategy next time.
Now picture a memory in which you felt deeply loved by your child and admired. Perhaps, you remember holding your child as an infant and hearing the sound of your child’s laughter, your young child’s mother’s day drawing of you, or your teenager entrusting his or her heart to you and crying on your shoulder after a difficult break up. Make this image really vivid engaging all of your five senses. Allow yourself to notice how your body feels when you draw to mind this memory. Bring this memory with you throughout the rest of your day whenever you feel like you are not good enough.
