Do you find yourself frantically listening to news or actively avoiding any mention of politics?
Are differences in beliefs causing a divide between you and family or friends?
If your answer to any of these questions is YES, you are not alone!
For many of Americans, this year feels more polarized than ever before. We have a tendency to believe that our stance on issues is morally superior to that of others and demonize anyone belonging to the opposing political party.
Here are some tips to help reduce election anxiety and maintain your health and relationships even after the polls:
1. Practice Radical Acceptance
Acknowledge your feelings about the situation as valid. You can only control your role in this election not the outcome.
2. Acknowledge the Purpose of Anxiety and Take Action
Anxiety is useful in helping us act to avoid a potential threat. What is it that your anxiety is telling you? Is there some action that you can take that is in your control? For example, voting, educating yourself on the policies on your ballot, learning about the issues your state’s representatives support or oppose and write to them to advocate for your needs as a constituent.
When we only read news or watch programing that confirms our political beliefs, we experience confirmation bias. In other words, we become more convinced that we are right and do not take in information that may challenge us to think critically. This does not mean subjecting ourselves to propaganda or hate. If the news source you are reading is using name calling or slander, tune it out. If something you read leads you to feel outraged, check your sources. The following sites can help you determine whether or news source or report is credible:factcheck.org politifact.com snopes.com.
It is easy to treat politics as taboo and avoid conversations with others about political issues. Relationships are our primary defense against anxiety and isolation. Be courageous in having conversations with people outside of your political party. Choose curiosity over blame and shame when discussing politics with others. Often we may be surprised by how much we have in common with others who vote differently than we do. This can only happen when we have conversations face to face rather than relying on social media where anonymity allows us to dehumanize others and promotes violence and threats.
4. Practice Balance not Avoidance
When we choose to avoid politics altogether, we give up our power to have a voice and impact change. Instead of avoiding the news altogether, take breaks occasionally to engage in something that brings you joy in the present. Go for a walk, spend time playing with your dog or your kids, do a meditation or yoga. When you feel refreshed, educate yourself again on current events.
5. Recognize the Difference Between Respect and Agreement
We do not have to agree with another person in order to show them respect. Remember, we are all trying to make decisions based on what we value most. What represents freedom and security to one person might differ from that of another. We do not have to agree to express respect. Practice saying “thank you for sharing your views and helping me understand how you see this issue” rather than “if you really valued X, you would vote for Y.”
