Dear Resilient Parents,
At this time, it is hard to keep your kids entertained and stay connected as a family! Here are some tips to help you support your children in reducing boredom and keep your family strong.
1. When your child comes to you feeling bored, recognize it as an opportunity to help them discover their interests. Listen with empathy by saying something like “I feel bored too sometimes.” Use curiosity questions such as “what ideas do you have to solve the problem of boredom?” or “what interests do you have that you might be able to learn more about?”
2. Sometimes kids may feel bored because they are having a hard time identifying what helps them feel fulfilled or brings them a sense of purpose. You may try checking in with them about these specific needs by asking curiosity questions such as “what does your body need right now?” or “what does your mind need right now?” or “how can you find connection right now?” Perhaps suggest ways that they can give back to the community from their home, for example drawing pictures or writing letters to medical professionals, writing encouraging messages in sidewalk chalk on the driveway, or helping you put together care packages for people in need. If they continue to come to you expressing boredom, it may be a sign that they are seeking some family time. Make a plan together for a specific day and time that you can do an activity together in the home and be creative.
3. Limiting screen time is more difficult than ever at this time as work, school, and even social connection to those outside of the home are all virtual; however, screen time can be draining and interfere with sleep when used in excess. Brainstorm strategies to be creative with activities that do not involve a screen such as reading, playing with pets, craft projects, going for a walk, or baking.
4. Recognize that your child’s entertainment is not your responsibility. Your responsibility is to provide the scaffolding to help them problem solve and provide for their needs. Express your faith in them to work it out. You can always tell your child you would be happy to show them how to clean the oven or wash the windows as a solution!
